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Navigating Adulthood as Millennials Successfully – Millennials Successfully
Happy April! Hi, and Welcome to La.Rue, the Ultimate Intentional Living & Lifestyle Blog. Let me introduce myself to anyone who may be new here. My name is Lauren L’Heureux. I created La.Rue for the purpose of inspiring young people to achieve their dreams. It has been six months since the launch of La.Rue, and we’re moving into a new season. Some really fabulous content has come out, and I want to continue offering you that same elevated content driven towards inspiring success. So, today on La.Rue, I want to talk directly to the Millennials my age striving to find their place in this generation. It’s been challenging for us in the college and post-grad age to find our place in an increasingly anxious environment. So, let’s talk about navigating adulthood as millennials successfully while continuing to find our own way and grow into “who we are” or “who we want to be” in the world today.
Stay Grounded In Your Life
There are many perks and many downfalls to growing up in the generation where social media plays such a major role in our lives. We have access to information, our friends, enemies, family, whoever, whenever. It’s a blessing and a curse. We’ve been so desensitized to the toxicity it can bring in different areas of our lives that sometimes we don’t realize the effect it’s had until much later. Too often, I find myself comparing qualities of myself to people I don’t even know. When social media was beginning, it was more about comparing image. But now we have access to so much information, and we know so much about people, that in ways we actually feel we know people that we don’t. So now, we compare our lives to theirs despite only knowing what they choose to share with us.
Our first step in navigating towards success as millennials is to stop comparing our lives to others, especially people we don’t know. We need to stop taking opportunities for self-reflection and turning them into points of comparison. Why don’t I have that job? What did they do better than me to get there? Instead, we should be asking ourselves what have I done to reach my goals? Step back from our phones and social media and take a moment to reflect on our lives. Give yourself credit for the effort and actions you’ve already taken and understand that dreams don’t happen overnight. We have to give ourselves time to succeed and remind ourselves that our lives and timelines will look different from everyone else’s. Instead of finding people to compare your life to, find people that inspire you to work harder, achieve more, and fight for your dreams.
Let Your Past, Present & Future Inspire You
I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again today. I believe at every moment, we are exactly where we are supposed to be, and everything happens for a reason. I know that at some moments, it may not seem fair what we’re going through, pain we may be suffering through, or simply life we’re struggling to deal with. But, I have been through those moments. I have struggled through points in my life where I was grasping for any defining moment of “why?” or for what purpose could I be going through something. Every moment in our lives redefines how we will deal with the next; every heartache, pain, and triumphant moment shapes how we live out our future. We will either become better people who learn from our experiences and move on with our lives or people rooted in a past they can’t define.
Our second step to success as millennials is addressing our past. When I say address your past, I want to be very clear. I understand that everyone has suffered through their own traumas and great difficulties in their lives. So, when I say address your past, understand I don’t mean this nonchalantly, and I don’t take it lightly. I do mean addressing emotions that you’ve buried that are keeping you from moving forward. Whatever has shaped your past, no matter how significant, if it is affecting you negatively, it does, at some point, need to be addressed. I understand that this can be an intense and challenging task to accomplish. But if done, over time, our past will no longer define us but rather positively shape the decisions of our future. Let your past inspire you to reach new goals and be the person you know you’re capable of becoming.
Don’t Let Pressure Consume You
Even with all that has changed in the world, we are still finding ways to pass on the expectations of generations before us and apply them to ourselves. I am 23 and living at home in a state I’m not the biggest fan of. A year ago, I would have defined that statement as failing, but now I see it so differently. There are so many circumstances out of our control. Many people my age are back at home with mom and dad working towards achieving their dreams from a different perspective than they thought they would. I want to tell you that if you are home, don’t let the pressure of “getting out” consume you. Just look at how you can begin moving forward. Look at how you’re working towards achieving your dreams; the rest will come naturally when you focus on your goals.
The pressures of what you think you’re “supposed to be doing” versus what you’re actually doing don’t matter. Just do what makes you happy. Work hard at something that motivates you to work harder tomorrow. Even if something doesn’t make sense now, and you’re not where you “thought” you’d be, remember, you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be, and everything happens for a reason. As long as you’re working hard towards your goals, focusing on you, and becoming the best possible version of yourself, you’ll get to where you’re meant to be. I can tell you I am not where I thought I would be at 23; but, I am so incredibly proud of what I am working towards and the person I am becoming. I have defined what I want my future to hold, and every day I wake up and fight for that future.